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Why you should put yourself first

I'm suffering from some Vanzant fever guys! Damn this woman is GOOD! To define the good..I'd say the speaks-to-my-heart kinda good, the she-damn-straight-to-the-point good! The call-a-thing-a-thing good!...if you listen to her videos in YouTube then this would be much easier to understand.

How i got to learn about her? Was doing my usual blog-stalking and saw some video with Oprah in it...and thought, well...lemme take a look. I watched this video, got glued and hunted for more Iyanla.

Ok, to avoid much talk..I'm just gonna share what i picked from one of her videos, i keep repeating it cuz its just that good people...it's good! I'll put it down in her own words (You can watch the vid below if you wanna confirm)..hehe...just to be sure yo girl ain't saying her own things..rem that in life you can't trust anybody. Oh, reminds me of some time back in a matatu heading home when someone just came in and shouted "Tafadhali Wananchi tufunge mishipi, shikilia simu yako, handbag na wallet yako vizuri, mkuwe macho,  angalia jirani yako, mwangalie tena na tena....huyo ndio mwizi!"
Now here are Iyanla's words:

"Most of the time you're used to putting other people before you, but you put yourself last. How you treat yourself is how you treat God. So when you're doing that, you're putting God last.
You are the representative of God in your life and  so when you put other things and people ahead of you, it only means that you're considering them ahead of God in your life.

You come first

So, question is: Is it selfish to put yourself first?

It's not selfish, It's self-full
It's self-full to put yourself first, to be as good as possible to You, to take care of You, to keep You whole and healthy.
That doesn't mean that you disregard everything and everyone, but you wanna come with your cup full.
( she then quotes from i don't know who ): 'My cup runneth over. What comes out of the cup is for ya'll but what's in the cup is mine' and so i gotta keep my cup full.

When you give to others to the degree that you sacrifice yourself, you make the other person a thief. When you start sacrificing too much of yourself for other people, you're making them a thief because they're stealing from you what you need and they don't even know it."

There you have it! You can visit her Facebook page here or watch more of her in the numerous Oprah's Lifeclass YouTube videos.

Stay Safe.
xx
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